Don’t Let Fear Stop You: Spread Your Wings and Fly

Things can be frightening when you start something new. The uncomfortable feeling of the unknown can become overwhelming at times. Like leaving home to go to college; or moving to a new place in general. However, don’t let fear stop you.

Fear is a well-known emotion, though you should remember, don’t let fear stop you or keep you from achieving your dreams and reaching for the sky. After all, how are you going to soar through the sky and live your dreams if you’re afraid to try?

The poem down below is a poem I wrote one day when doing a poetry 30-day prompt challenge. I am not the creator of this prompt challenge and all credit for inspiration goes to the creator.

Spread your Wings

Spread your little wings little bird

Do not be afraid to fly

I know it is frightening

Way up high

Flap your wings

Leave the nest

Keep reaching for your dreams little bird

you will pass this test

Soon you will soar high in the sky

So, spread your wings little bird

Do not be afraid to fly

 

What is Fear?

According to the online Merriam-Webster Dictionary, fear is 1a: an unpleasant often strong emotion caused by anticipation or awareness of danger

b(1): an instance of this emotion

(2): a state marked by this emotion

2: anxious concern: SOLICITUDE

3: profound reverence and awe especially toward God

4: a reason for alarm: DANGER

In my own words, fear is the rapid pitter-patter your heart makes when you start something new, see something that frightens you, or the uncertainty that comes along with life. Unfortunately, fear is an emotion that can quickly rule your life if you let it.

Common reactions to fear

  • Sweaty Palms
  • Freezing in your tracks
  • Rapid heartbeat
  • Excessive worry
  • Hyperventilation
  • Becoming frantic
  • Not thinking clearly to evaluate situations
  • Panic attacks

Normal Vs. Non-Normal Fears

Some fears are rational, that have little effect on your everyday life. Then some stop you cold in your tracks. Down below, I have provided examples of rational fears and some that can cause a lot of anxiety, uncertainty, and frustration that make simple tasks difficult.

Normal:

  • Spiders, snakes, creepy crawlies
  • Clowns
  • Heights
  • Animals

Non-Normal:

  • People
  • Transportation
  • Water to the extent you are afraid to bathe
  • Being in public

Remember, what I mean by not regular is how they can affect your everyday life. For example, I have a deep fear of people. You could imagine some of the difficulties I had before I started working on that fear.

Making and keeping friends was one of the challenges I faced. When I would make a friend, I would push them away unintentionally due to the fear of abandonment or rejection.

I’ve come to notice when you are afraid of something, it usually ties into a more significant concern. Don’t let fear stop you from living a healthy life in these situations.

Identifying and Conquering Fears

One way to determine the deeper part of your fear is by writing it down and understanding the possible reasons why you are afraid. By identifying the root of the doubt, you can start working on overcoming what frightens you. Here are some ways to help you identify the more significant concern:

  • Write down what scares you
  • Write down why you are frightened
  • Research fears related to your own
  • Write down things you can do when you become afraid
  • Think back to your childhood, could there be an event that correlates with your fear

Writing down your feelings is an excellent way to get what is in your mind out onto paper, or if you prefer, a digital diary.

When you write or type something out, you can keep it for reference. The human mind can only withhold so much information at a time,  often when we think of something significant, it becomes easily forgotten.

Additionally, researching fears related to your own often leads to finding unexpected solutions and sound advice in overcoming terrifying moments in your life. Here are a few things I personally do to overcome some of my fears:

  • I take a deep breath and often face them head-on
  • CBD Oil helps calm my anxiety, thus calming some of my more irrational fears (like being in public)
  • Journaling how I feel before and after doing something that frightens me
  • Have a plan for when I go into panic attacks
  • Reminding myself, that I am okay and to take deep breaths when becoming panicky
  • Having a supportive friend

Remember, these are some of the tactics I use and may or may not work for you. Identifying the root and conquering fears is very doable, it just takes some mind power, reassurance, and patience.

However, I will say the concern will be in the back of your mind from time to time, it’s learning how to not let that fear take control.

 Why Overcoming Fears is Beneficial 

Some of you might be sitting there wondering why overcoming fears is helpful in your everyday life. Why not just avoid that particular thing?

Honestly, you can’t go about life avoiding things all the time. More than likely, you’ll often find that when you are trying to avoid certain things, they pop up unexpectedly. Learning to overcome fears can help in the following ways:

  • Feeling more confident
  • Feeling a great sense of accomplishment
  • Becoming mentally stronger
  • The ability to help others through similar concerns
  • Being able to react rationally when certain things appear/happen

Now, I am not saying go outside and try to catch a snake barehanded or go into a crowded area talking to everyone you see. I’m saying don’t let fear stop you from doing things you want.

Start small, like going to a zoo and having a snake handler, let you touch a snake. Or make it a small goal to compliment one person you do not know, every time you go out. By giving a small compliment, you are making someone else’s day while working on social anxiety (if you have it).

There are many benefits when it comes to conquering fears, the ones mentioned above are just a few from the top of my head. If you let fear rule you, it becomes hard to live the life you truly want and can cause things like depression, anxiety, stress, etc.

Remember, fear is a normal response to alarming situations. However, if it is hindering you in any way, it needs to be addressed so you can move forward in life.

Helping a Loved One Through Their Own Fears

Sometimes it is not us who are needing guidance through fear; it is a loved one. Helping someone through their own fears can be hard at times, and frustrating when you do not know how to help them.

Personally, when I would become afraid in the past, I would often become defensive, making it hard for friends to want to help me. Luckily, I realized my behaviors and started working on becoming a better person.

So, how do you help someone through their own fears, especially when they can become a handful? Here are some ways my loved ones helped me:

  • They let me know when I was becoming defensive.

    By letting me know how I was reacting to certain things, I was able to realize that I did not want to keep displaying that type of behavior. It gave me more of a reason to want to conquer my fears, especially my irrational fear of people.

  • When going to a crowded place, they would go with me and reassure me I was okay.

    Within time, they started walking away from me in public, encouraging me they would be nearby.
    This helped me so much with my social anxiety. I still get rapid heartbeats at times, but I can go into a store by myself now for a short period of time, which is a significant accomplishment.

  • Continually reassuring me when needed. I know it can become annoying, but for those who are seeking help, it really does help ease our minds.

  • They never made me feel as if I were crazy, irrational, or unimportant.

  • When I needed to talk, they were always there.


Here are a few more ways you can help:

  • Ask them what helps calm them when they become panicky.

  • Never make their fear seem stupid or unreal. It is very real to them, and if they are trying to overcome something, the last thing they need is to feel like their fear is nothing.

  • Share something you were fearful of and how you overcame it.

Being there for someone when they need guidance is a fantastic thing to do. By being someone they can go to in a time of need, you are helping them accomplish so much without the fear of being judged. Everyone needs a guiding hand at some point in their life.

Conclusion

Fear is a normal response to traumatic situations, things, or events. By identifying the deeper meaning of the alarm at hand, you can gauge where you need to start working on overcoming said fear.

This is beneficial in many ways, including having a rational mind when the thing that frightens you pops up. You will be able to handle the situation in a calmer manner. Furthermore, if you keep avoiding specific fears, it can cause depression, anxiety, and stress.

Additionally, helping others through their own struggles is a fantastic thing to do. By being there in an unjudging manner, you become a rock they can lean on when things get overwhelming.

You can help your loved ones through specific fears by sharing your own, along with the way you handle being afraid.

Most importantly, don’t let fear stop you from achieving your dreams.

Additional

Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this post, I hope you were able to find useful information. Furthermore, thank you to everyone who follows, supports, comments, and encourages me to continue on this blogging journey of helping others. You guys are awesome.

All constructive criticism is much appreciated.

References 

Fear. (n.d.). Retrieved from https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/fear

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